engEngineering is a tough course in university. There’s a huge work load, too many tests, impossibly difficult subjects… a stressful and time-consuming program. Because of this, engineers have to bond together as a group, a family, to pass and just get through. I think people don’t quite understand us, and sometimes I just wish I could tell them our story, or at least mine. As a McMaster Engineering student and a Redsuit (a frosh week controller/event organizer), I have heard a lot of stereotypes that we are sexist, racist  egotistical, negligent  drunk individuals. I would like to explain a little…

Other faculties say they start disliking us starting at Welcome Week (a week of events made for the incoming first years to get them to know campus and feel integrated into the school). Engineering is well known for running around shouting obnoxious cheers that push the limits of being socially acceptable or that scream faculty pride. We are loud, vibrant and dramatic, where as the other faculties (from my perception) are quiet, formal and …  NOT obnoxious. I think because of this difference we seem like shit disturbers. What I’d like to say about this is that Welcome week is a time to get integrated into the school, feel welcomed and comfortable, and just have fun! Even for the redsuits themselves, this is one of the few times a year where we can just relax, have fun, and forget about the mountain of stress and hard work coming. I know I wouldn’t have liked to spend faculty day any other way. By being “forced” to be out-of-the-box and obnoxious I felt so much more included, and like no one would outcast me. It made feel like part of a family.  We need this family. If you don’t, you fail. Let’s admit it too, engineers are strange ones. By being shown we can be weird as we want and still be accepted and loved makes the world of a difference.

I can personally say that participating in Welcome Week with engineers just as they set it up, then continuing in being part of our community has done everything for me. It saved me from a downward spiral. It saved me. I became a redsuit because of all that its done for me, and because I want to help others just like redsuits did for me.

All our shenanigans and “pranks” and event; they’re just humorous. We aren’t serious when we shout our “putting-down” cheers at other faculties (and may I remind you, they shout terrible things right back). We LOVE other faculties. McMaster is our home, and that includes the Humanities, Health Sci, Science, Nurses…. everyone. We’re only joking around. We have to. That comedy is what loosens us up from our suffocating course. Without it I think I’d die of stress and worry.  I just wish the other faculties could understand we only do this to survive. Plus we are weird, socially awkward and crazy, and our sense of humor is …. crazy. Sure that means we don’t seem socially acceptable, but bear with us.

These tomfoolery… we love them. And because we love McMaster, we think it’s awesome to share it with them. We want everyone to have as much fun as we do. This is how we show our love. Yea, it might be a weird way, but come on, you can only do so much math before you go a little insane. Some of these things are Welcome Week events (that I kind of talked about up there), Santa Hog( we sing and collect money for charity), other charity events, pub nights, Kipling ‘Pranks’, etc.

Kipling ‘Pranks’ are a bunch of silly projects made and set up by the graduating engineering students the day before their ceremony where they finally get their iron ring. They are approved by our Faculty of Engineering (Associate Dean) and by Health & Safety (EOHSS), so they are harmless. This year unfortunately we had a bit of an ….. incident with one of our Kipling ‘Pranks”; the maze in the art squad. A bashful article was posted in our McMaster newspaper, and there has been others before it.

We honestly don’t mean any harm.  It’s true that if it was another faculty’s prank they probably would have left it. If I saw the Artsies set up something like that I would’ve been so excited; who doesn’t want their life spiced up from the everyday workload and stress of school?  If I don’t like the obnoxious singing in the student center or that the cultural days took up the only open work space when I needed to do an assignment, I don’t get offended by them or hate the organizing faculty. Everyone has their fun events.

So how do we stop faculty phobia? It’s hard to know. Engineering isn’t the only faculty with bad stereotypes.

Sure engineers come off as proud, but that’s because we love each other and what we do so much, and because we have such a bond. Who isn’t proud of “true family”?  I love McMaster, and I know all the other faculties do too. So, TOGETHER we should become proud and TOGETHER we should make one huge family.

Maybe one day we’ll all understand each other better.

And we’ll study and we’ll go give it all we got.

Because I’m in engineering at university I find these memes to be one of my favorite kinds. Especially the nerdy ones that not many people would get without an explanation, which makes them hard to share. I’ve also found that the more I hang out with engineers in my busy schooling schedule, the more memes I think up and want make… so here are the first few ones than I’ve made! (hopefully you’ll get them, they arent too nerdy… this time)

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Because the Gearheads…. Oh Honda’s….

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I have this song stuck in my head. It is “class” from “Chicago”. It’s making me think……

Now, if you listened to the lyrics, I have started to contemplate them. Have you ever thought about how our society is so very hypocritical? I’m not saying that I also am not a hypocrite at times, of course I can be. But why is our society so hypocritical? It’s enough to turn a human mad! People criticizing others’ skills, shedding contempt on their ideas; hurting feelings.  People walking around thinking they’re all that and have the right to look down on the skills others have and mistakes others make when, in all reality, they are just as at fault.

Why can’t we just accept everyone? Why can’t we just be nice to people? Why can’t we truly care instead of lusting after physical gain?

I know what it’s like being the kid that was always left out. This made me grow up to truly fight to help the “unlovable”.

When you grow up would you be the savior of the broken, the beaten and the damned?

Will you defeat them: you’re demons, and all the non-believers: the plans that they have made?

Just because something is different doesn’t mean it’s bad! Just because someone is angry a lot doesn’t mean they don’t love. It’s often the angry that need the love you give to regain faith in the human race and give them something to hold on to!

This is one of my life goals now: To be help those who need it most. The broken. The monster infested. The ones that truly are nice people but have slipped below the surface while swimming in a pool called Life.

To help those who live the “Sharpest Lives”

‘Cause it rains and it pours when you’re out on your own

You’re the one that I need, I’m the one that you loath

You can watch me corrode like a beast in repose ’cause I love all the poison

You can take all the pain away from me

Help those around you and you’d be surprised at the amazing, loyal friends you will make, and the lives you will save!

I’m sorry to burst your bubble, but I’m not giving up on you. DO you think I give a care that you want to push me (us, everyone) away?

Oh? You’re still trying to be an asshole to make me hate you?  You think that’s best for you?

I’m sorry but I can’t let you do that. You might think you can only drag people down from here if they like you? Well sure it’s possible, but being a fake asshole isn’t going to change anything. ANYTHING. Keep up your mask but I can see through that piece of shit. Come now, don’t you think its time to stop running? Don’t you think its time to look at what’s bothering you? I know its tough, don’t fucking think I don’t. You think you’re making yourself give zero fucks by destroying yourself because you hate you. HATE and THE WANT TO DESTROY  is NOT anything near giving ZERO FUCKS.   If you can’t believe in you to get you through at least find someone else or something else.

This song , applying it, helped me:

Jen has done more for me than anyone can ever think or beat. Remembering I have a best friend like her takes me through the day. Now find someone or at least SOMETHING to work for. It doesn’t have to be big, just enough that you can let the world pass you and you don’t care and live your life.

I’m not saying DON’T BE MISERABLE. You don’t have to be a unicorn! I’m not retarded, I know that’s not possible (even though unicorns DO exist, clearly). You just… I don’t know what to tell you here. Find people. No? Talk to yourself then goddamnit. No? Well… then do like me and enjoy being miserable. Say whatttttt? Yes, I said I like being miserable. Weird, I know, but it works.

Lol laugh! Laugh at misery! To you its a game to me its a jokeeeee Haha. Loosen up. I know that’s hard but that’s where you use your CRAVINGS as MOTIVATION. You make them a TREAT instead of an everyday thing, then you work hard for them (PLUS you enjoy them more then ;P). Then you get excited about them too…. and that always is a mood booster.

Now, music. Music, music, music. What’s good to help you along? For me, it’s heavy metal and Eminem. Eminem is probably the most motivational song writers I know. Weird right? But hey, he gets from the depressed to the not caring to the angry.  It works! Not Afraid is probably the best:

Yeah, it’s been a ride
I guess I had to, go to that place, to get to this one
Now some of you, might still be in that place
If you’re trying to get out, just follow me
I’ll get you there

Here’s a wonderfully hilarious song for when you’re in the dumps by Monty Python (come on, you know you want to listen):

Hey, well I know I’m not much of a MOTIVATOR

                               But maybe I at least gave you some laughs.

Here’s a poem a friend gave me when I decided I was going to let myself spiral down and push people away:

How dare you
fall away
from everything
you know.

Remember when it meant so much?

How dare you
fail
Yourself, me-
Us.

Remember when you never gave up?

How dare you
Refuse to see
Hope
I know you have

Remember when you held on tight?

How dare you
not try
to live in
Happiness

Remember when it was worth the fight?

~Lend me your eyes; I can change what you see.

You know who you are

Now go out and feel evil! Make the whole world kneel! You may be “The Devil’s Own” and a “Menace”. Maybe you are “Just losing it”

And when in doubt, listen to Dr.Horrible’s Sing-a-long Blog?

Well okay, I forget if I wanted to say anything else so….. just remember:

Okay, come on, I had to put a pun. Depressing things need humor.

Well rock on dudes! Good luck! I love you (well, someone does)

(lol gotta love that movie)

….Sorry about the swearing…. It just makes everything more effective!

… this one really hit me. I was scrolling through my Facebook wall when it came up as my aunt’s status. I had been thinking hard before I saw it, and when I did, stuff just kind of came together. I’m not a huge Bob Marley fan, and his quotes are great, but this one really did it:

“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”
― Bob Marley

Having trust issues isn’t the best thing, and you constantly live in a mindset that people are out to get you. And when something goes wrong, well, you back off because you don’t want another person in your life that’s going to break you down. But no one is perfect. Even the best person in the world to you is going to make mistakes. They might not even realize what they’re doing, or how it’s effecting you. Maybe you just don’t understand their logic. You never know what’s going on inside another person’s head.

I’m not much of a person to open up to people. I don’t like having emotion, and when I do, I don’t like it and try to hide it.  This, as you can imagine, can make it hard to understand me. But I’ve come to realize that sometimes I need to just buck up and tell people things I don’t want to share. I’ll do it for them. Just recently my closest friend, the one person I could REALLY trust and the only one I talked to about my problems, broke my trust. They pushed me away, treated me like dirt, and lied about a lot of things. It was heart wrenching when I found out. But after sitting down and thinking WAY too much, I realized that I hadn’t been looking at what was going on in their life from their perspective, and knew that even if this incident happened this once, they are still very important to me and I am willing to suffer to fix our friendship again. I don’t mind that it means I have to share when I don’t like to share, or that I have to understand that I’ve made a big mistake and I’m the one to blame. All that matters to me is to fix what I’ve done and be a better friend than I was before.

So if you feel let down, or confused, or just plain treated poorly by someone you care about, just remember that people aren’t perfect. And some people are worth fighting for.